Tuesday, June 29, 2010

The Fall Of A Leader

When a great leader falls because of a lack of integrity, it is
very painful for all involved. Tearing another person down to
build yourself up, only leads to a false impression of yourself.

When someone is tearing others down in front of You this is
a guarantee they will do the same to You behind Your back.
Ultimately you will crash and burn from your lack of character.

The question is:

Would You Want This Person As Your Sponsor ?

Life can give us challenges in many areas of our life. How we
handle those challenges ourselves and who helps us, can
determine our success or failure. Loyalty to do the right thing
enters into all decisions. Friendships built on loyalty and trust
are like support beams for a foundation.

A foundation is the beginning. This applies to your marriage,
your friendships, your home and your business. If you build
them correctly, they will sustain you your lifetime. If you
build carelessly everything will crumble around you.

Leaders are built. Day by day, Lesson by lesson. When a
leader chooses to fall, they sacrifice their integrity, their
honor and their character.

If after knowing the facts and fully utilizing their "critical
thinking skills" when someone decides to leave Your Team
please wish them all the best.

Excerpt from "Launching a Leadership Revolution"
Foundational Leadership Quality: Honorable

Integrity can be considered as the condition of "not doing
what's wrong." Character can be defined as doing the right
things, for the mere reason that it is the right thing, even if
that thing is difficult and unpopular.

The two sewn together make honor. Author Jeff O'Leary,
in The Centurion Principles, writes, " 'Honor' encompasses
the virtues of integrity and honesty, self-denial, loyalty, and
a servant's humility to those in authority above as well as a
just and merciful heart to those below."

Honor is such a rarely used word in our times that it seems
a little old-fashioned. But living a life of integrity and character
is timeless and, for a leader, absolutely necessary. It's about
choices, and a person's choices in life follow him to the grave.

Is this to say that a person needs to be perfect to become a
leader? Of course not. Perfection in this life is not possible,
and we, the authors, are certainly not exceptions. However,
a leader must strive continually toward perfection even though
she knows she can never exactly attain it.

It is a question of the heart. The most effective leaders through
out history have led with their hearts, in trust, and with honor.
If a leader cuts corners, misuses people, or misrepresents, the
truth, a time bomb begins ticking. Someday, somewhere, the
bomb will go off. It is obvious in our times only too often: public
figures at the pinnacles of power and fame crash and burn in
the cloud of self-inflicted shame. From political scandals to
high-profile corporate frauds, these calamities are brought
on by a lack of honor in the leadership.

"Human happiness and moral duty are inseparably connected."

The difference between leaders we revile and those we praise
is their individual level of honor. In fact, honor is the force that
holds a leader's hunger in check.

Without honor, hunger runs rampant and ultimately serves
only selfish interests. Honor is the component that makes
hunger productive for the leader's fellow man. In fact, what
we are basically describing here is another "old-fashioned"
word: duty.

George Washington said of duty, "Human happiness and
moral duty are inseparably connected." So leadership is
spawned by hunger and held in check by honor.

Under that combination, leaders will find happiness in the
fulfillment of their duty to others. It has been said that the
character of a man is the only thing that will walk back
from the grave into the hearts of the people who knew him.

That is the legacy of a leader. The words a leader say and
the walk a leader walks must match. As the saying goes,
"Your word is your worth and your worth is your word."

Andy Stanley, author of The Next Generation Leader, says,
"To become a leader worth following you must give time and
attention to the inner man.

To leave a legacy that goes beyond accomplishment alone,
a leader must devote himself to matters of the heart."
Character is developed in the valleys and the peaks of life,
enabling a person to overcome obstacles and deal with

Abraham Lincoln observed, "Nearly all men can handle
adversity, but if you really want to test a man's character -
give him power." Character connects a person to what is
right and true.

If reputation is what others think of you, then character is
what God knows about you. This concept of honor is so
important to a leader because people will follow a leader
only as far as they feel they can trust him.

People will not follow a leader they can't trust. According
to R. Ruth Barton, "We set young leaders up for a fall if
we encourage them to envision what they can do before
they consider the kind of person they should be.

" Warren Bennis tells us, "In the leadership arena,
character counts. I am not saying this casually, of studies,
observations, and interviews with leaders and with the
people near them.... I've never seen a person derailed
from [leadership] positions for lack of technical competence.

But I've seen lots of people derailed for lack of judgment
and character." And, as Heraclitus said, "Man's character
is his fate." Finally, it should be remembered that a major
component of honor is personal courage.

Without the courage to do what's right because it's right,
regardless of ramifications to self, one is not truly worthy
to be called a leader.

When people don't "Believe" they deserve Success they
will self destruct every time.... This is the reason we tell
everyone we meet to "Participate" in the 30 Day Mental
Cleanse if You want to own Your life.


Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Igloo building and MLM?


Yes, even igloo building can have a lesson for us network marketers.
A few weeks ago, we decided to build an igloo.  It was lots of fun, a great learning experience and actually not too cold to sleep in - as long as you had TWO sleeping bags per person. 

Here are a few pictures of the finished igloo:

 Now, when we decided to build this igloo, the climate was right, snow seemed like it would be around forever.  But, even in Wisconsin, warmer weather does come and the sun can do irrepairable damage to a snow-built building.

 Less than a week after building our igloo, it lay in ruins.  Many network marketers face a similar challenge when building a business - things look great, timing seems right, and the product is awesome.  But then, the climate changes.  Snow no longer makes the perfect building material and the hard working networker watches all his hard work simply 'melt' and disappear!

How can you be sure this won't happen to you?

Make very sure that you are in a 5 Pillar company.  If you don't, all your careful labor may be wasted.

No matter HOW carefully we had built our igloo, it would never have lasted after the temperature got above freezing. 

No matter HOW carefully you build your business, if your company's policies and procedures has a termination clause, or if you have to renew each year, you could lose all your hard work as quickly as we lost our igloo.

To learn more about the 5 pillars you want to have in place in your network marketing business, you can read my ehow article How to Use the 5 Pillars to Identify a Good MLM From a Scam  and read Michael Dlouhy's free ebook, 'Success in 10 Steps'.

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Why, Why, WHY?!?!?!

WHY do you do what you do every day?
WHY are you in Network Marketing?
WHY can you NOT quit no matter what?

Would you ever try to climb a mountain without knowing WHY you are climbing it?  Of course not!  If you do not know the reasons WHY, you will not last.  Having a decided WHY is sooooo important to your success.  This applies to all of life, not just network marketing.  Success usually comes on the heels of failure, so if you do not have a strong enough 'why' you will quit when the hard part comes and right before your success arrives!

Start with writing down why you want a home business.  If you know the reasons why, and the reasons are strong enough, you will never give up.  That is an important KEY to success.  If you are in a 5 pillar company, and you have a 'WHY that makes you cry' it's almost impossible to fail.  As my good friend and personal mentor, Michael Dlouhy, puts it in Success in 10 Steps, "an AMAZING “WHY”, a 99.9% “WHY”, will keep you going through rain, sleet, snow, flood, pestilence, nuclear holocaust, or the criticism of a “loved” one."


Thursday, January 7, 2010

Oh, The Questions I Hear!

When you start working from home, you have a lot of questions. Sometimes, after you have been working hard at it for several weeks, months or even years, you have even more questions! Take a look at this excerpt from 'Success in 10 Steps' by my good friend and personal mentor Michael Dlouhy...

'I've talked with thousands of people in the network marketing business. They ask themselves certain questions. Maybe some are familiar to you:

Why am I not smart enough to do this business?

Why am I successful in corporate America and fail in network marketing?

Why does the phone weigh so much?

Why do the "No"s hurt so bad?

Am I too tall? Am I too short?

I worked so hard and still can't do it. What's wrong with me? What's
wrong with the company? What's wrong with the product?

The Hitters tell me, "If it is to be, it's up to me." Other people do this. Why
can't I?

Why do these companies fail me?

Why did the federal government shut my company down?

I maxed out my credit card on advertising. Why did it NOT work?

I went to the meetings. I did three-way phone calls. Why doesn't everyone
see this?

Why don't they have the literature in Spanish?

Where's the teamwork?

Why isn't this fun?

Where are the facts and figures?

Where's the money?

Network Marketing Deviltry

It’s not your fault.
Let that sink in. How does that make you feel?

I don't care what any heavy hitter has ever told you. Fact is they've lied to you.

Doesn't that make you angry?

I can PROVE the cards are stacked against you. That's why it's not your fault."

To most people, that last part probably didn't sound familiar at all. But it's the truth! When you read Michael's book, you can really understand why most people's lack of success in network marketing is not their fault. Check it out for yourself at http://total.successin10steps.com/

To Your Success!
"Be a Mentor with a Servant's Heart!"

Saturday, September 26, 2009

How to Use the 5 Pillars to Identify a Good MLM From a Scam

Just wrote an article on how to tell if a MLM is legit or a scam.  There are some easy steps you can take to make sure the company you are joining will be the best for you.  Check out:
How to Use the 5 Pillars to Identify a Good MLM From a Scam
I'd love to hear feedback!

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

How to.....

I've been writing a number of how-to articles on eHow.com.  Here's one of them:

How to Make MLM Work for You with Truly Free Mentoring

O.k. So the next one is more just for fun...
How to Make Udder Delight - A Healthy Frozen Dairy Dessert

I'd love to hear your comments on the articles.  I will be writing more soon so stay tuned!

Friday, September 18, 2009


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